In the world of dating and relationships where all of us seem to be embarked on a journey of finding love and then maintaining what we have found, even the best of us can sometimes not see things clearly.
Even those of us who have had successful relationships running for a good couple of years or so, find things to have gotten, dare we say it, a little dull and monotonous. Our partner’s laugh no longer seems like music to our ears, but rather like an alarm bell going off at some distance. How did you even get there, what went wrong along this way which seemed like a pretty good way only a short while ago?
Then on the other side, we have people looking for love in an era where love and attraction are determined by the direction in which your fingers move.
It does not matter which of the above groups you belong to, at some point you may have wondered to yourself if having a successful love life is just a myth? At Your Star Forever, we believe that a successful love life is definitely not a myth. And since we follow this school of thought, we take it upon ourselves to provide you with a few guaranteed tips that will help you find the love you need and keep it alive.
1: Be Your Own Person:
Before you look for love elsewhere, fall in love with yourself first. This means embracing your strengths and weaknesses and still loving yourself for it. During this process you learn how to give space and accept others for their imperfections as well. Being truly comfortable with yourself first allows you to receive and reciprocate love in the best manner possible.
2: There is No Timeline:
Shun societal rules right away! You may have come across several folks who tell you that you should be in a committed relationship by so-and-so-age because that’s the norm.
The thing about love is that it does not follow a schedule. So don’t give up on love just because you think you are running out of time. We assure you that you are not. Don’t give into societal pressures of settling for a relationship you know is way less than what you deserve.
The right kind of love will find you and will be every bit as fulfilling, whenever it does find you.
3: Never Stop Looking, Never Stop Working:
If you still have not found the person you can see yourself committing to, don’t worry too much for there is a time and a place for everything. Most single folks may have been told at some point or the other that love will come to them crawling on its hand and feet if they just let it.
This is only partly true. Love will come to you when it is able to spot you! What we are trying to say is that if you are waiting for true love to find you by staying inside your house all the time, prepare to get disappointed. Be social, hang out at cool places, be approachable and then, yes, love just may look up your name and address.
For the ones who already are in a relationship but seem to think to themselves that maybe, something better than this is lying outside, take our word: it’s not!
If you decide to part ways with your partner thinking that it’s not the same like it used to be, we have some bad news for you: it is going to be the same with everyone else. The more time you spend with someone, the closer you get to someone (anyone), the more you start to see them for who they really are and not what you thought them to be.
In other words, if you think your current partner has too many issues, wait till you meet someone new who introduces you to their own proverbial luggage. We all have issues!
Folks, the grass is greener where you water it. If you feel like romance has just evaporated from your relationship and it’s time to call it quits, wait a moment. You built so many memories with this person, made so many promises to them too. Why not work to rekindle the romance and get that passion back into your relationship?
Just because you are in a committed relationship, does not mean you get to stop doing any of the fun things you did when you had just begun dating. Planning fun dates, revisiting the places you shared intimate moments at, giving each other small, meaningful gifts (get a star named after them!) — all can do wonders in preventing your relationship from going stale.
You’d be surprised to know what a simple handwritten note with a lovely message can do to make your loved one feel special!
These are just some simple rules to help you find love and maintain the romance. If you wish to read more useful things that can help you improve your love and relationship game, we have an excellent book by Matthew McKay which we highly recommend reading. Click here to learn more about his book, “Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work”.